You do not have to believe in God for the following to make sense.
If you do believe in God, or Jesus, or both, then consider these words:
Matthew 7:1 (NIV). ”Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.”
Speak a little softer. Ask a few more questions. Put out your hand rather than raising it